Mom will write a check to cover the cost of the car repairs.
“Hold on here . . .,” you might be saying. “Why is your mother paying?
It should be James. ”
That’s not how it works in my family.
We are all co-dependent and
we lack boundaries.
Mom will write a check.
James who is 50 years old has only zeroes
in his checking account.
I worry about my mom’s finances because
she is at the age when hiring a nurse or
major health problems may be on the horizon.
There are times, I point and wag my finger at my mom for rescuing her five children too much. She should have stopped doing it 30 years ago.
We are all grown now. Yet, she won’t let go and let her children figure it out.
Though Ol’ Wise One and I miss our sons a lot.
I’m actually happy that they live far away. I want to break the cycle
of co-dependentcy and with years of therapy I have learned how to create
Having the boys live far gives them the opportunity to
see that when you ignore the maintenance light, it’s a sign that the car needs some love.
Take away my worries when it
comes to my mother’s finances
and her rescuing ways. She is 75 years old.
She will not change anytime soon.
I put my hands up now and say to you,
You are in control, whatever happens will
*from ILLUMINATA, M. Williamson