lola guerrero

50-something empty-nest-search-for-God-and-happiness with more than a dash of humor

Let the Day Decide, Part 2

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Continuing with my list!

6. Thank you for my girlfriends. You need them in your corner to help you vent. (Oh, I forgot. My therapist calls it bitching, not venting.)

It is great for us to let it out. Bitch away! Don’t go through your issues alone. Let girlfriends come along for the ride.

NO MATTER WHERE WE ARE IN LIFE. WE NEED EACH OTHER. WE NEED TO MEET FOR COFFEE, OK . . . FORGET COFFEE, MEET FOR A GLASS OF WINE OR CONNECT THROUGH EMAIL, FACEBOOK, or TWITTER. CONNECTING KEEPS US GROUNDED AND GIVES US A SENSE OF COMMUNITY. AND WE FEEL WE ARE NOT ALONE. WE ARE ALL GOING THROUGH THE SAME PROBLEMS.

7. Thank you for my menopause. It has given me a push, a rebirth of my true self. My emotional growth as a 50 plus menopausal woman has blossomed. I like who I’m becoming.
I’m grateful for the 10 extra pounds around my waistline.
Hot flashes come and I don’t take notice. I just start fanning myself and grab a couple of ice cubes to suck on. I have learned to put on the “layered look” when I leave my condo.

Flat shoes are now my “go to” footwear.
I had to surrender my designer 6-inch heels to Goodwill. With two bunion operations, I now wear flat shoes or two-inch heels when I go out. With my dizzy spells, I don’t want to take a chance of  trying to stay grounded as the room spins around me and my towering heels. That does not sound attractive.

An added bonus to menopause is
that I speak up more, but not in a bi-atch way.
I had no idea I had a grown-up voice until I gave myself PERMISSION to use it.
It is a straight forward voice and it is empowering and liberating.

IT DOESN’T MATTER IF THE OTHER PERSON DIDN’T LIKE WHAT I HAVE TO SAY.
(IN MY CASE, THAT WOULD BE MY HUSBAND.)
IT’S NOT MY JOB TO MAKE EVERYONE HAPPY. FOR A LONG TIME I REALLY THOUGHT THAT WAS MY CAREER. NOT ANYMORE.

8. Thank you for my writing and blogging.
I am now a member of the “blog – on” movement.
I thought about putting my writing out there . . . talked it over
with myself many times and to my BF. Finally, I said “Enough Lola. Take a chance. RISK.”

And so I did four months ago. And, to my wonderment, I have readers! Haha. Who knew?

I LEARNED YOU HAVE TO NOT TALK ABOUT IT SO MUCH. JUST DO IT. BE OPEN TO WHERE YOU MIGHT END UP.
DON’T PLAN IT ALL OUT. LET IT FIND YOU.
WHATEVER THAT MAY BE.
AND IF YOU WANT SOMETHING IN LIFE. YOU HAVE TO PUT
SOME WORK INTO IT. GOD IS NOT GOING TO DO IT ALL FOR YOU. YOU HAVE TO MOVE YOUR FEET FORWARD.

9. Thank you for my editor MB. I couldn’t do my writing/ blogging without my editor. I’d rewrite it until the end of time. The result would be beads of sweat on my forehead and damp arm pits. And I would just get frustrated, give up, and head to my favorite health store and pig out on two slices of vegan pizza. I’d then wash it all down with coconut water and end it all with a vegan chocolate chip cookie. Yah.

MB saves me from all this strife by proofreading and tweaking. My gift is not in editing. MB has an eye for it.
I know what I’m great at, and proofreading is not one of them.

KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GREAT AT AND LET OTHERS
DO THE REST.

10. THANK YOU that I’m mindful enough to try to be present. At times, my mind wonders to places I want to be like Maui, Napa Valley, New York, or Manila. I’ m not focused on what is in front of me. I’m not listening.

WHAT IS IN FRONT OF US IS THE VERY THING WE NEED MOST IN THIS MOMENT.

Happy Thanksgiving to everyone.

What are you Thankful for this
season?

Dear God,

My life is good. Thank you.
Amen.

Lola

Author: lolaguerrero

50 something, mother of two, married, grandson named Napoleon. Love to go to the gym, watch films, act, write, jog, walk 10 miles with my husband, wine and travel. I"m a double tall, NF latte with half a pump of mocha with whip cream.

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